"Pocketing" refers to someone keeping their relationship from their family and friends on social media. It's a way of creating space and distance in the relationship. Your relationship is basically non-existent to the public.
Offering an introduction is another step in bringing you and your partner closer.
Grace Lee said in an article that this new dating trend is like being in someone's pocket, hidden away from the rest of the world despite having an intimate relationship with the said person.
How would you feel if your partner thinks that it's embarrassing to be with you?
Some of the reasons why would some "pocket" you:
1. He's ashamed of you
Whilst this is emotionally upsetting, it happens. It could be that you are not up to the standards of society in which they live or the peer group that he and his social circle are part of.
It's rather disappointing sign and if proved to be true it brings up two questions:
(a) Why is he worried if others think that you do not fit into the standards of society that his social circle is part of if he himself is attracted to you?
(b) Is status and perception of you by others more important to him than his own love for you?
2. He thinks that his family and friends won’t approve of you.
3. You are his ideal type but doesn't fully fit the bill.
It could be that you have all the characteristics that he has been looking for in a romantic partner. However, he is a perfectionist and couldn't accept the other 30 percent of you that cannot be changed. It could be your past that he minds. He could be in a dilemma with regards to what to do. He is attracted to you as a romantic partner and hopes to have a future with you. Yet on the other hand, he is incapable of accepting that you are not the perfect partner he wants to spend the rest of his life with. He is in a position where he finds it hard to let you go but he doesn't have all that it takes to give you a sense of security in the relationship - the fact that he doesn't recognize you as his most ideal type of partner speaks it all. I guess nobody wants to feel that they are not enough for their partner or they are lacking in ways that couldn't be changed - for instance, having been married before and is now raising kids of past marriage.
You know, what hurts most as a single mom in the dating scene is when you fall head over heels for someone whom you thought is the one for you. His sweet talks encouraged you to take a leap of faith into this whole drama of believing that fairytale love do exist in the world.
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